Step 1: Pause
Pause in life. Stop. Take a moment. Life is busy, fast, cluttered, and chaotic. Life is Mario Kart at 1,000 cc. Think about it all. Relationships. Work. Hobbies. Books to read and podcasts to listen to. Points of friction. Surprises good and bad.
We have to pause. We’re uncoupled from reality. We yell at our spouse when it’s the person we love the most. We chase investment gains contrary to our investing plan. We get off-track on projects by being on-line.
Take a breath (or sigh). Sit in a church. Meditate.
Step 2: Accept
We must accept the world as it is. You must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool. No wish casting. No re-roll requests.
Who made you manager of the universe? Don’t think about control. Instead, accept and orient. You’re lost. We all are, only to different degrees at different times.
Step 3: Hope
This requires faith in the connection between past and present. Stocks go up over time, stocks are down now, but stocks will rise again. Consider your myopia, and find your glasses.
Hope is crucial because without hope we have no action. Enter a game you can’t win – how hard are you going to try? Instead, think about the rules of the game, the past turns, how others have played. Did someone win? Did someone not lose? There’s hope: the connection of past to future that leads to action.